What’s a Song You Find Sexy?
This morning, I walked to get a coffee…
As I stepped into the café, I heard the Shakira song Underneath Your Clothes playing from the speakers. I couldn’t hear the lyrics clearly, but since the melody was so similar to Eternal Flame (my go-to karaoke song!), I played it again when I got home. And DAAAAAMMMMMMN the lyrics are sexy.
Some people prefer silence during sex. “I want to hear my partner whispering; I want to hear our bodies,” said my friend L. “Those sounds are a big turn on.” But others need a playlist. “We have a speaker right in the bedroom,” says poet Kate Baer, famously. “I don’t want to hear mouth sounds.”
Of course, you can listen to vibe-y songs any old time. “I’ve been listening to Leon Thomas songs on repeat in my Honda Odyssey with three kids in the back,” said a reader named KMK, “pretending that I’m a hot lady.”
What songs are getting you going these days? Please share!
P.S. More great songs, and some verrrrry sexy stories.
(Photo by Normal People.)
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98 commentsI’m on fire- Bruce Springsteen- swoon!
Definitely !! :)
– Avalon – Roxy Music – Need You Tonight – INXS – Brass In Pocket – The Pretenders – Cuts You Up – Peter Murphy – Sex (I’m a …) – Berlin – Candy – Iggy Pop & Kate Pierson
Heat Waves – Glass Animals Stoned on You – Jaymes Young Nothing Matters – The Last Dinner Party Fire for You – Cannons Bad Things – Cailin Russo
Totally totally old school. But, totally totally the sexiest song ever … Alexander O’Neal “If You Were Here Tonight.” If you know this song, you just know.
We don’t love silence but both get easily distracted by trying to match a rhythm or paying attention to the words, so we’ve found that low-fi is perfect for us! Bonus: when one of us hears the other say “hey Google, please play sexy low-fi” it’s like the bat signal and we come running!
Dave Matthew’s – Say goodbye
Sure Thing by Miguel *swoooooon*
U2: With or Without You. Hungry Eyes (from Dirty Dancing). Enrique Iglesias and Whitney Houston: Could I have this kiss forever. Also, for those who speak Hindi/ Urdu, there is an old song Roop Tera Mastaana, which, if you know the language, is hotttt!! Obviously, my personal opinions only!
Dirty Dancing ! That end dance remains, in my opinion, the best 30 minutes in television history ! Yes to Hungry Eyes !
Oooh, I love “Hungry Eyes” and Dirty Dancing so so much.
Turn your lights down low – Lauryn Hill & Bob Marley
You’re the First, the Last, My Everything by Barry White
Not to be creepy, but I’d love a post about “what’s your move”. Aka the fail-safe, go-to moves that either make the giver feel really confident, or are intended to woo the recipient over.
Ball and Biscuit by The White Stripes. *let’s steam out of collar* fans self* https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkX6Bg8Yq48
Tough choice! 1. Europa – Gato Barbieri 2. Love Won’t Let Me Wait – Major Harris 3. Close The Door – Teddy Pendergrass 4. Someone Like You – Van Morrison
Late to this, Killshot (Slowed + Reverb) by Magdalena Bay also works great!
Dunno if it’s sexy for others, but I love Into the Mystic by Van Morrison. Also Bob Dylan’s Lay, Lady, Lay
We have the same taste Mona! Both great recs.
Lay Lady Lay by Bob Dylan. Fields of Gold by Sting
I didn’t see your post before posting mine. Also said Lay, Lady, Lay, together with Van Morrison’s Into the Mystic.
Neat to see your comment ! Yeah I was thinking where’s Lay Lady Lay, people ! :) So I had to include it. It’s cool.snd funny we both thought of it around the same time. After I listed those 2 songs I remembered Wonderful Tonight by Eric Clapton. So nostalgic for me. Oh music ! Sometimes now, in my older years, I find it too painful to listen to my old music. Like James Taylor. I’m tearing up just thinking of his songs.
Here to say you two are my people. Adding Please me like you want to from Ben Harper
Me and Mrs. Jones by Billy Paul.
when i get my hands on you by the new basement tapes!
No music during sex for me but I still love sexy music. Prince – so many songs, I just heard The Most Beautiful Girl in the World for the first time in a long time and thought it was very low-key sexy. Kind of Leon – so many songs that are HOT; and Sade, especially “by your side” which I think of as “romantic sexy”. Sexy music has its own genres.
Change of heart – el perro del mar
You’re just too good to be true. Can’t take my eyes off of you. You’d be like heaven to touch, I want to hold you so much. At long last love has arrived and I thank God I’m alive. You’re just too good to be true, can’t take my eyes off of you……………slow dancing, cheek to cheek, breathing in perfume and fresh sweat………..whoa!!!!
That is a good one !
Lots of Prince :-)
Girl, you´ll be a woman soon by Urge Overkill!
Yet another vote for “When I get my hands on you,” from The New Basement Tapes. Marcus Mumford can sing that to me any time!!
Just heard ‘la Isla bonita’ today blasted from a cafe. It’s Halloween and I’m 47 but it took me back to being an eight year old buying her first album.
Oh heck yes. And also Crazy For You!
Son of a Preacher Man – Dusty Springfield! Minha Galéra – Manu Chao! Guava Jelly / Baby, We’ve Got a Date – Bob Marley and the Wailers!
Les fourmis rouges by Michel Jonasz My French boyfriend decided to sing this song while we were dtesting my new karaoke mic at my flat. I haven’t heard him singing the sexiest song ever in French before OHLALA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x3f2-4h3AsM&list=RDx3f2-4h3AsM&start_radio=1
“Ankles” by Lucy Dacus, “Only when I” by Alice Phoebe Lou, “One Thing” by Lola Young , “Parler d’amou”r Zaho de Sagazan, “I’m your Man” by Leonard Cohen is the sexiest song ever!
Wonderful to see Alice Phoebe Lou on here. I adore “Witches” too!
Freakin You- Jodeci
Mrs. by Leon Bridges — his voice is so sultry and the layers of sound are just delicious.
Fade Into You by Mazzy Star. Samba Pa Ti by Santana. Carry Me by Patty Griffin. Feels Like Rain by John Hiatt. Eileen by Butch Hancock.
New Basement Tapes, When I Get My Hands on You. the sexiest
YES
Yes, thank you. Literally came to the comments to say this.
“So Good at Being in Trouble” by Unknown Mortal Orchestra. “So good at being in trouble/so bad at being in love.” Takes me back to an angsty–but quite sexy–time in my life.
The Rush – Janelle Monae. Actually, her whole Age of Pleasure album is worth a listen – the topic is sex and sensuality, and the music feels like silk.
Bryan Fery – Slave to Love ( John Legend – Tonight
Oooh on the new season of Ted Lasso, they played “When I Get My Hands On You” by The New Basement Tapes whenever Keeley and Roy Kent shared any cheeky moments. This song is a vibbbbbeeeeeeee https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=BDUDx15KdkI&pp=ygUxd2hlbiBpIGdldCBteSBoYW5kcyBvbiB5b3UgdGhlIG5ldyBiYXNlbWVudCB0YXBlcw%3D%3D&ra=m
Stripped – Depeche mode World in my eyes – Depeche mode Damn wish i was your lover – Sophie B Hawkins Beetlebum – Blur Come away with me – Norah Jones
+100 to Norah Jones!!
GAHH!!!! I’m KMK referenced above and it’s made my WHOLE day to be COJ famous lol. I’m also still a hot lady in the Odyssey :)
Al Green. Marvin Gaye.
Yes! And Barry White
I want you now – Depeche Mode When the Levee Breaks – Led Zepplin Same Deep Water as you – The Cure Angel – Massive Attack Do I Move You? – Nina Simone Darling Nikki – Prince
I found “Cowboy” by Selena Gomez surprisingly sexy while watching THAT scene in The Love Hypothesis.
“When I Get Drunk (I want you boy)” by Suki Waterhouse. Trust me
Maybe it’s just me, but I’m cackling at the idea of Shakira popping up on a sex playlist. Do not get me wrong!! I love her! But her voice is so not sexy to me lol
“Jason” by Perfume Genius! So good!
“Rocket” by Beyoncé.
Ooh yessssss adore this one 💯
ohhhh definitely Total Control by The Motels
Sexual Healing by Marvin Gaye.🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Omg can someone please make some great Spotify playlists for all these??
Agree whole-heartedly!
Hi everyone! I’m sharing my playlist for intimate moments. I hope you enjoy it. https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6vr0eqpsTYuyakSsM7rBdg?si=98b62a39374b4024
Anything by Lewis Skye! His song Heal was the first song my love sent to me… we had a long distance romance for so long, and I remember listening to it over and over and over and just LONGING to be together in person. I still get aaaalllllllll the feels when I listen to it :-) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lybpecwV8XA
The Basement Tapes – when I get my hands on you is my very favourite.
YES! This was such a great recurring bit in the new season of Ted Lasso – playing whenever Keeley and Roy were talking – such a great build!
Thank you for the photo of Paul Mescal!
“Day Dreaming” by Aretha Franklin started playing on KCRW while we were in bed and I don’t know if it was the pot or the vibes, but it was heavenly.
Lose Control – Teddy Swims You Should Probably Leave – Chris Stapleton Think I’m In Love With You – Chris Stapleton Univited – Alanis Morissette Raining on Sunday – Keith Urban
Beast of Burden by the Rolling Stones
Yessss
The Stones. Always
Two faves lately: Red Chevy by Holly Humberstone Party 4 U by Charli xcx
“I Need You Tonight” by INXS and “Save a Prayer” by Duran Duran remind me of my teenage years and all the feelings! More recently I’m into a bunch of songs from Off Campus. My husband has the total opposite taste in music from me so my list is just for me to “pregame” IYKYK!
Fade Into You – Mazzy Star Crimson and Clover – Tommy James and The Shondells And a bump for Wicked Game…duh!
In my freshman year of college I had a massive crush on a guy in my dorm. One night after a party, months into this crush, I went back to his room with a bunch of people and eventually everyone else left and I knew for sure that we were going to make out. The song that came on just before we did was Teardrop by Massive Attack. I’ve never paid attention to or even looked at the lyrics until just now, and I guess they’re sexy, but the sound of the song so perfectly captured the feeling of anticipation (maybe the sexiest feeling of all), that it is forever connected to that moment in my mind. As it turned out, the kiss was terrible and things never went any further. More than 25 years later, he and I are still friends and it’s safe to say that crush is well and truly over, but every time I hear that song it brings me right back to the intensity of my feelings in that moment. A few years later, Teardrop became the opening credits theme song for House MD, so that’s probably the main association for a lot of people, but for me, every time I heard / hear it, I am right back in that room, 18 years old, and about to kiss the person I was absolutely convinced was my soul mate for the very first time
Sideways – ZAYN Brown Sugar – D’Angelo Taste and Please – Both by Rhye Check out Rhye’s Tiny Desk Concert by candlelight – I can’t help but wonder what NPR babies resulted from watching that performance. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YkkKUARRpeU
I can’t explain it but Kings of Leon’s entire Only By the Night album (Sex on Fire, Use Somebody) does things to my bits.
100%
Totally.
D’Angelo – Untitled (How does it Feel)
I was FOR REAL scrolling like how has no one mentioned How Does it Feel?!?! And the video gahhhhhh
100000% sooo good
I swear it was on COJ that I learned that Spotify make “Make Out Mix” and “Sensual Mix” and “Freaky Mix” etc playlists! They WORK!! And they are tailored to your specific music taste. But anyhoo…. mine is prolly 80% The Weekend – DANG!
The Lemon Song by Led Zeppelin always and forever.
Worst Behavior – KWN & Kehlani Continuum – Tanerelle How You Want It? – Teyana Taylor 🔥🔥🔥
My husband and I have a playlist called ‘ass slapping good time’. Our absolute favorites: Hozier (aka ethereal grinding, as I heard it referred to on youtube): Talk (the *best*), Work Song, Movement, Would that I, Cherry Wine. Lose Control by Teddy Swims. Fade Away by the Revivalists, Secrety by Maroon 5. Tennessee Whiskey for when you’re done and feeling smug about it. On my personal, get amped, because we set a 9:30pm date and I like to spend the day getting excited (#thisis40): Half about Being a Woman – Caroline Smith, Guilty as Sin – Taylor, Love on the Brain – Cold War Kids, Sex on Fire – Kings of Leon, Fresh out the Slammer – Taylor Have fun out there folks, life is short, might as well squeeze all the juice out of it we can
So perimenopause and anti-anxiety meds are killing my libido right now, but I’m wondering if listening to some of these at work today might just kick start some kind of feelings! :)
I imagine the music would help. Rub a little Burt’s Bee’s hand salve into your bits… and read the spicy parts of Outlander -the first book. Just the spicy bits… Hope it helps.
Agreed with Anon, reading spicy bits of *anything* gets me in the mood, I used to like Sarah J Maas but it’s almost too vulgar for me now? I like it softer and sweeter so more Emily Henry or Abby Jimenez. Also pretty undies that FIT WELL and some perfume makes me feel like a lovely wanted woman.
Highly recommend talking to your doctor about getting your testosterone levels checked. Mine were crazy low and now I’m on a prescription compounded testosterone cream. Game changer!
Poetry: How does it feel now by Akua Naru. Blows my mind, every single time!!!!!!
Ok hear me out. The Twin Peaks theme but only because it’s reminiscent of those first months of courtship between me and my now husband. We had a weekly tradition of going to a cute little bakery, picking up a piece of pie to share, watching an episode of Twin Peaks, and then spending the afternoon together. Ah to go back a few decades and do that again. When I hear that theme though, I’m right back in my skinny jeans and long scarf thinking about my brand new romance.
Music is a true reminder of the past
Leon Bridges’ album Coming Home is the perfect makeout music.
The dirtiest, sexiest album I’ve ever heard has to be the Berlin-based HTRK’s Marry Me Tonight from 2009. With song titles like “Rent Boy,” “Panties,” “Fascinator,” a singer whose voice oozes sex, and repetitive, throbbing base line, it’s the kind of sleaze that should be played at a hipster strip club in Portland. In the 90s, every guy I dated thought PJ Harvey was the ultimate sex music, because I swear, they were always putting her on before we got it on.